tag: Infinity Dreams Awards

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The Rules
1) Thank the blogger who tagged you for the Infinity Dreams Awards
2) State 11 facts about yourself
3) Answer the 11 questions that you were asked by the blogger who tagged you
4) Think of 11 questions for the bloggers you tag to answer

5) Tag other bloggers 🙂

Sarah - Raiin Monkey - lifestyle blogger

Thank you Sarah from Raiin Monkey for nominating me for this award. Sarah and I are kindred soot-sprites and we have to find a way to meet up some time. Whether she’s posting about adorable cartoon characters, sharing her awesome nature pics or talking about feminism, I always enjoy scrolling through her blog.

11 facts about me

☆  I am incredibly scared of heights.
☆  I identify as queer/pansexual.
☆  My favourite colour is purple.
☆  I hate olives.
☆  I am short-sighted.
☆  I’m 5ft 4.
☆  I’m having a blog rebrand soon (watch this space in particular!)
☆  My friends and I play a lot of geeky board games.
☆  I’m quite a good cook but I can’t bake.
☆  I’ve only ever been to one festival.
☆  I don’t have a driving license.

 

What’s your favourite insect?
Butterflies! They are such beautiful and diverse creatures. I have always been fascinated with how they achieve what they need to with such short life spans too. Most of you will know that I have a butterfly tattoo on my thigh that’s currently in-progress. I’ve started working with Ana from Black Lodge in Westbourne and she’s breathing new life into the work. Next we’re going to take the colours out like splashes of paint and make some abstract lines and shapes in the background. It will eventually go to my ankle!

 

colourful butterfly thigh tattoo - Ana at Black Lodge Studio, Westbourne

 

Which do you prefer- white, milk or dark chocolate? 
I get cravings for all three but milk chocolate is easily my favourite.

 

What is your favourite topic to blog about or type/style of post to write?
Feminism. It’s something that I feel so passionate about and there’s so many misconceptions about what feminism is/ what it’s fighting for. I write about a feminism that is intersectional, sex positive and that promotes queer theory because I think that’s supporting and fighting for genuine equality at its fullest. I also love reading other people’s posts about feminism – some of my fave feminist bloggers are Tara, Sophie, Kathy, Holly, Emma and Elena.

 

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List one thing you’re looking forward to this summer.
Although it’s not set in stone, I’m really looking forward to a holiday! It’s been a stressful year already and I still haven’t seen a lot of the world. Whether its the rumored group trip to Amsterdam in August or a weekend away with Josh, I am in dire need of some time away to relax and reflect.

 

What’s the best toy you’ve ever got inside a kinder egg?
Haha, what a brilliant question! I can’t really remember a lot of Kinder egg toys I’m afraid. I’d be interested to hear what other people got though.

 

Tell us about something embarassing or super adorable that you did when you were a child?

A story my Mama loves to tell people:

When I was about four or five,. I was obsessed with the late Stephen Gately from the band Boyzone. He came out on television and I immediately went to my mother and asked what ‘gay’ meant. She told me it was “when a man loves a man or a woman loves a woman”. I got a bit confused and said: “Well I must be gay Mummy, because I love you!”. CRINGE.

 

What’s your favourite lipstick shade? 
At the moment I’m wearing all different shades! I’ve only recently started embracing colourful lip choices. My favourite I own is probably my Rimmel Lasting Finish 04 though – its so vampy and cool! (Update: Unfortunately this shade is no longer being sold but I recommend these lipsticks nonetheless, they’re great.)
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Last movie/tv show that made you cry?
I cry at nearly everything. Most recently it was at the TV show ‘Vets in Action’. There were two very small, weak kittens who were born early and neither of them made it. Josh had to give me a cuddle…

 

Name something on your wishlist right now & tell us why you want it. 
Pins! I recently bought an oversized grey denim shirt and I’m gonna decorate the hell out of it. So far I have a Mockingjay pin that my friend Jake gave me from his Loot Crate and a Space Kitty pin that I bought from Samantha Eynon. On the back, I’m going to put this awesome patch that I won, specially made for me from the lovely Punkheart Patches. I’ve been eyeing up some great pins from a variety of stores so watch this space!
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What’s your dream job?
I don’t have a specific job role that I am aiming towards. All I ask is that I get paid to write about things that interest me without selling my integrity. I don’t want to endorse a product that I don’t believe in or promote an organisation that I think is corrupt. I’d like my work to entertain and inform people but ultimately to inspire them to make up their own minds. If I can do that, I don’t mind where I work or what it’s called on paper.

 

Sarah - See the Stars - lifestyle blogger

 

Recommend a blog that you enjoy reading.
There’s tons! I always give a shoutout to my favorite bloggers where possible as they’re a constant source of inspiration and motivation to up my blogging game. Today I’ll give the spotlight to Sarah from See the Stars. I’ve followed her blog for ages and she seems like someone I would be good friends with offline. She is genuine, funny and sweet and her posts are something a bit different. She has a real eye for taking gorgeous photos too. Go and follow her!

 

My questions are…


If you’re old enough to do so in your country, have you voted before?
What’s your one beauty regime staple?
What are you most proud of to date?
Name one person (dead or alive) that you would love to have over for dinner?
Show us a picture of your best fancy dress costume (or cosplay).
What is or was your favourite board game?
Describe your blog using only five words.
Name one skill you’d like to learn and tell us why.
Do you have any birthday traditions?
What was your favourite childhood cuddly toy?
Describe your perfect Sunday.

 

…and I tag:

hanarosella
jessica and her journey
the forest mermaid
petticoats and patriarchy
teatime with naomi
see the stars

I look forward to learning more about you all!

Leave links to your answers in the comments below or tweet them to me – @jennalloyd27

Jenna

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Dissertation hand-in … I did it!

I did it! I’ve finished my dissertation!

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Anyone who knows me particularly well will know that my time at university hasn’t been an easy one. From picking the wrong course to personal difficulties, I ended up on a degree program that thinks about the bigger questions. I made some great friends along the way, despite being a commuter and sometimes missing out on events. I have grown as a person and learnt important lessons about self care, tolerance and hard work.

 

Most importantly, I have learnt to believe in myself and that I can do something if I set my mind to it.

I wrote a dissertation examining the self/other relationship of modern feminism, exploring intersectional and queer theories and suggesting a situation not dissimilar to the dialectic of enlightenment in Adorno and Horkheimer. Through reading Hegel (and critiques by my professor as well as his no. 1 fan, Gillian Rose) I began to wonder if equality and the freedom that it promises can hold any truth. I’m still not sure what I concluded, only now I think that a key component of mutuality is difficulty. In other words, we struggle to see the other as their own entity, even when they present themselves as a subject. Also, feminism shouldn’t revert to mastery and barbarism, it should be reflective and aware of contradictions as and when they present themselves (white, bourgeois feminism etc)…

The deadline day

Yesterday I had a meal and drinks with my course mates and my tutors. It was emotional as we played games, told stories and laughed a lot. Now comes the time to close the chapter of my life that was BA Modern Liberal Arts. I’ll be pretty emotional about leaving it all behind but I know that the way I’ve been encouraged to think won’t ever leave me, and that’s okay… Although I’ll still roll my eyes when anyone asks me to explain what ‘liberal arts’ actually means or what we did.

What’s next you ask?

Well I’ll graduate in October and I’ll post all about that, don’t you worry. As for now, I’m on the lookout for a job where I can help a brand that I believe in to blossom through creating engaging and interesting content. Ideally I want to write like I do here, but I’d just be happy to do something social or events based. The blogging will continue regardless and I will of course keep you guys posted as to what the future holds.

 

More photos of the hand-in day with the delightful Cami will be up at some point.

Cross your fingers for me guys…

Jenna
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Smile Makers* : A Very Secret Diary

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Who are Smile Makers?

Smile Makers are a range of stylish vibrators, sold exclusively at Superdrug (RRP £29.99). As a brand, they believe that physical wellbeing, including sexual pleasure, is important for women’s overall health. Promoting the idea that conversations about masturbation shouldn’t be taboo, they hope that by making their products accessible and discreet, women will feel more confident and even empowered about the idea of self-pleasure.

 

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What are the products?

The Smile Makers range includes two external personal massagers (The Frenchman and The Fireman) and two internal vibrators (The Tennis Coach and The Millionaire). All four are 100% phthalates free and made of silicone approved by the US FDA. They are also fully waterproof and only 40db, so this adds to how discreet they are!

 

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What are they like?

I have a close friend who agreed to anonymously contribute to this piece. She is a single woman in her twenties who has tried vibrators before. She kept a diary whilst trying out the Smile Makers products and we chatted about it over a cuppa! Her feedback on the two is as follows…

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“The Fireman has what I would call a ‘lily-like’ appearance. It has 5 settings – 4 are basic vibration at different intensities and then the 5th is pulsing. 1 & 2 are basically the same so I’d recommend those for ‘warming up’ as they’re just enough to peak your interest. The third setting is brilliant and I finished on four – with an orgasm! Because of the shape, I used the silicone tip to get that little bit more but the bumpy bit, when rested on your clitoris was good for prolonging sensations. 

I also tried this in the shower, standing with my leg up like a flamingo at one point! They aren’t lying, it is fully waterproof because it still worked afterwards unlike some products I’ve tried before. It isn’t the strongest vibe I’ve ever tried but I can imagine if you’ve not used one before, this would be more than satisfactory. 

My non-shower test I worked through all the settings, sat with my heels to my bum. The more exposed and available your vagina is when using these the better. I don’t think you could have a sneaky wank under the table with them. The bumpy bit I found better to rest on my clit and then I sort of moved it around using some wrist action. Another orgasm here.”

 

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“I have to be honest and say that I didn’t like the Frenchman, or as I affectionately named it, the shoehorn. The shape was annoying because when you look at it, the ‘cup’ area that I thought didn’t cup how I expected it to… I ended up using the reverse side of the lip. When that’s away from you, it moves loads but when you apply it, there’s not a lot of movement so I had to do a lot of hand work. Trying this in the shower, I gave up on squatting, putting my leg up didn’t work and after 25 minutes with no orgasm I gave up, pretty frustrated!

The Frenchman is also fully waterproof but a bit louder than The Fireman. It has the same 5 settings but I felt like 1 was nothing. The 2nd one was like the first on the Fireman. I found that 3 was best – it felt suddenly stronger! I found that I needed setting 3 or 4 here in order to ‘get anywhere’.

The shape causes problems when standing so I’d recommend using whilst in a deep squat if you can, or in a ‘lotus-legged’ position with everything open. This makes it a lot easier to stimulate. With this one I couldn’t figure out how to prolong sensation or use the ‘dip’ bit properly.I was determined to try The Frenchman again though!

This time I was in the standard ‘missionary’ position, on my back with my legs spread. I couldn’t figure out a solid technique with the pulse setting so I spent 20 minutes trying different angles, wrist actions and positions. I really wanted to judge its performance on its own so I tried to let it do its thing but I just couldn’t get it to the position I wanted to. This might be my error? Perhaps Smile Makers could include some instructions or suggestions for techniques? Still no orgasm unfortunately.”

 

Who should try Smile Makers?

Anyone could try Smile Makers, whether you’re an experienced toy-user or vi-curious and wanting to try something different. I’d also like to point out that not all women have vaginas/clitorises and not everyone with those bits is a woman. Basically, the products are designed to fit those body parts so if you’re comfortable trying those then I say go for it!

 

Do you own anything from Smile Makers?
Do you follow another great sex-positive brand?

Let me know and leave me links in the comments below.

 

* This post is a collaboration with Smile Makers.

For more information, see my disclaimers.

 

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Being ‘bossy’ vs being ‘the Boss’

I’ve wanted to write about this for a long time because it’s something that we spoke about at the She Who Dares Wins conference back in October and its been playing on my mind ever since.

I personally have been called bossy in my life. Granted, it was when I was a little girl and I had big ideas and wanted everyone to cooperate in making them happen but nonetheless the word still stuck. Bossy is a pejorative term. It’s a word that means you’re overstepping the mark and maybe you’re forcing people to do things that they don’t want to do.

Its something usually said to children, right?

Wrong.

Back in 2014, research by Nic Subtirelu (Ph.D. in applied linguistics at Georgia State University) showed that ‘bossy’ is used 1.5x more frequently on Google for women and girls than it is for men and boys. This isn’t just an age thing, this is a gender thing.

Around that time, a campaign to #banbossy was started and it was backed by several big names including Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg, Beyoncé and even former US Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice! The idea was that girls who are called ‘bossy’ tend to then shy away from speaking up in class or leading team projects.

If I think about it, the word definitely had an influence on my eagerness to take charge when I was younger. In my experience, girls that got called bossy were labelled ‘opinionated’ too, meaning they spoke when they ‘weren’t supposed to’ about things that ‘weren’t their business’. So I never took heed of that warning and I still speak my mind now but I definitely worry about not being heard or that people won’t take me seriously. We already know that social media can be a pretty difficult place when you’re growing up and trying to find your passion in life. But we also know that there are some incredible women leading projects and speaking out about a whole range of things now too.

So what makes a woman ‘the Boss’? I don’t necessarily think it’s people calling her it. I think its demanding respect for what you’re doing and it’s other people taking note that you and your work matters. Regardless of whether you’re fifteen or fifty, being ‘the Boss’ shouldn’t be about gender, it should be about taking charge. That doesn’t mean you’ve got to dominate or oppress anybody, that just means that you shouldn’t be discouraged if people are uncomfortable with your authority in that role.

 

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At She Who Dares Wins, I asked two great women Melissa Rowley and Tamara Sword what they thought the difference was between being ‘bossy’ and being ‘the Boss’ and they told me how they think women are socially penalised in business for asking for more (raises, promotions, leadership etc).  They advised women not to be discouraged from this and said that being ‘the Boss’ is about negotiation and leadership skills that will fight the institutional bias. I was truly inspired by this idea, that the power lies in me to change that!

In every workplace and following every hobby, there’s always going to be people who feel the need to comment on how you do something or ask why you’re doing it. While criticism and reflection can be a good thing, if someone’s just uncomfortable with you taking charge or calling the shots then I think a crucial part of being ‘the Boss’ is not letting that commentary hold you back.

What would you say to a little girl who’s just been called bossy for trying to organise her school project or giving a speech about equality? She could be the next Malala Yousafzai, Stefanie Mainey or Nina Tandon. I think I’d tell her that she’s The Boss and that no-one can stop her from achieving her dreams.

What do you think, is ‘bossy’ a discriminatory term?
What makes someone ‘the Boss’?

 

Let me know and leave me links in the comments below.
Jenna
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Feminist Wishlist

A fellow blogger babe Rhiân did one of these a while back on her blog and I’ve been wanting to make my own but wasn’t quite sure if it would interest people. Having put a poll out on Twitter in the New Year asking what content you guys wanted, feminism had a majority vote (alongside mental health and self care stuff). I’ve now got a posting schedule that reflects the results of that poll but you can always leave me comments with what content you want to see more of and I’ll see what I can do!

These are a few picks from my fave sites that would be perfect for any feminist.

 

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1 |’Try To Love Yourself As Much As You Love Beyoncé’ tee by Liana Spiro on RedBubble

I do love Beyoncé and I should love myself more so this is a personal must-have! The design is so cute and pretty.

2| ‘You are Lisa Simpson’ pillow by Expo on Studio6

This is from Mr Bergstrom’s note to Lisa in the episode ‘Lisa’s Substitute’. It is supposed to remind Lisa that if she ever feels alone or not good enough, she is all she needs. Such a positive message and Lisa is a feminist icon of TV.

3| ‘I Think Your Sexist Jokes Are Boring’ tote bag from Feminist Apparel

This tote bag is not only practical but has a point! I have said this to so many people in my life.

4| ‘Not Your Bae’ pin from Punky Pins

I love Punky Pins and will be placing my first order soon to decorate a blazer of mine. There are so many cute designs but this one was my feminist fave.

5| Color Her : Mix n’ Match Coloring Book by Iris Glaser & Katrin Leblond from Amazon

A coloring book filled with women of all shapes, ethnicities and ages. Accurate representation and you have free reign with what beautiful colours you use – yay!

6| ‘She Needed A Hero So That’s What She Became’ mug from MiniGeekBoutiqueUK on Etsy

This isn’t necessary only for feminists. This is a sweet gift for any strong woman or girl in your life as a reminder that she has overcome so much.

7| ‘Feminist Killjoy’ glitter banners from UnicornParadeShop on Etsy

These are adorable but I don’t have anywhere to put them in my house at the moment. Perhaps an office when we move? Plenty of cute banners in this Etsy store.

 

Do you want/own anything from this list?

Do you own any other feminist items?

 

Let me know and leave me links/pictures in the comments below!

Jenna
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the empowerment playlists: volume three

I hadn’t forgotten about these bad boys, I promise!

My empowerment playlists are all about music to get you through and to remind you of your strength and beauty when you need it most.

I do take to Twitter and Facebook asking for contributions to these so feel free to drop me a message, whatever the genre of your favourite song. You’ll see, there’s quite a mix in there and I add to them whenever I find new music that fits.

Volume One of these playlists was about moving on after a relationship breaks down, and that’s tough.

Volume Two told us about girl power, sticking up for ourselves and one another.

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This playlist is called ‘If You Can’t Love Yourself…’ and it’s here to remind you that despite what people might say or how you might feel sometimes, you are beautiful and worthwhile.  It’s telling us to be kind to ourselves, to love ourselves and our imperfections and not to base our self worth on what other people think.

Have you found a new favourite track?

What music empowers you to feel self love?

In a month or so’s time I’ll be creating a playlist about women’s sexuality (self love, but a bit ruder?) so if you have any suggestions for tracks, let me know and leave me links in the comments below!

Jenna

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“You Can’t Be A Feminist If…”

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Hi guys!

Your friendly neighbourhood queer feminist here, ready to spill some tea on some common misconceptions about what being a feminist in 2016 actually means. Although there are many sub-sets of feminism, I’ll be discussing genuine advice I’ve been given with regards to my beliefs and my behaviour and boy is it something!

 

Please note that this piece is for entertainment purposes and so should be taken with a pinch of salt!

 

#1. “You can’t be a feminist if you wear make-up.”

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So some people believe that makeup is a tool that amplifies ‘beauty ideals’ and that by wearing makeup, you are not only compliant with but promoting a patriarchal standard of beauty. I say that this is bullshit. Make-up is a way in which many people choose to express their creativity. The colours, shades, shapes and techniques can be considered an art form and many choose to study these and/or take makeup as a profession. Make-up (like many things) is not solely a ‘woman’s product’ – people of all genders can enjoy makeup and when this assumption is made, you are ignoring a rich, queer history of drag artists and gender-fluidity.

My makeup makes me feel confident and powerful, ready to take on the world. It is a choice I make for myself that emphasises what I consider to be my best assets and it allows me to be artistic in ways that I can’t normally. If you don’t wear makeup then that’s cool but don’t tell me that I shouldn’t wear mine!

 

#2. “You can’t be a feminist if you’re in a relationship with a cis man.”

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This one is ridiculous. Not only does it further encourage the myth that feminism = misandry but it automatically assumes that you couldn’t love a man simply based on his gender. See something wrong there?

I’m a pansexual woman and it just so happens that the person I’ve chosen to be in a relationship with is a cisgender man. He is also a great LGBTQIAP+ ally who is interested in and educated about intersectional feminism and this is part of why we get on so well. On a personal level, he is respectful, kind and listens to my experiences so to tell me that I’m not feminist for being with him makes no sense.

Don’t tar every man with an ‘anti-equality’ brush, it’s hypocritical.

 

#3. “You can’t be a feminist if you shave/epilate your body hair.”

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So the idea of being pro-bodily autonomy is that your body and what you choose do with it is your own. It means that you believe in bodily integrity – that people’s bodies should not be violated in any way by others because of said autonomy. I know that some feminists believe that removing body hair is another patriarchal beauty ideal and I’ve spoken to many who don’t epilate for that reason. I respect that choice completely and I believe that if you want to be fluffy, you should be proud of it!

I personally feel more comfortable with less body hair, especially as I occasionally suffer from hyperhydrosis. The more body hair I have, the more the sweat clings to my body and despite deodorant, it can be quite smelly. It’s easier to stay fresh the less hair I have and when anyone tells me otherwise, I remind them that its my damn body.

 

#4. “You can’t be a feminist if you care about men’s rights.”

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Part of a comic by Rasenth on tumblr.

 

My definition of feminist is close to that used by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie in We Should All Be Feminists:

feminist: a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.

I however would change ‘the sexes’ to ‘genders’ as I don’t believe that all inequalities are from within in the gender binary. In fact, I don’t believe in the gender binary at all!

To acknowledge men’s rights in your feminism isn’t to deprioritise women’s rights, as long as you  give each their own context and don’t derail the conversation. There are plenty of men who suffer as a result of the kyriarchy, be it because of racism, transphobia, homophobia or poverty. The archaic gender roles that put pressure on men and boys to exert power, exploit those more vulnerable,to be big and to use force ….they’re damaging and dangerous instructions. It is important to speak about these issues if feminism is to achieve true equality but not necessarily to shove them into the same conversation as womens issues.

 

#5. “You can’t be a feminist if you support sex work.”

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Image from qnotes.

This one tends to divide a lot of people so I’m just going to explain why I personally have sex-positive attitudes.

It is incredibly important to promote safe sexual practice. Not just in terms of sexual health but for personal wellbeing and education about consent. Not discussing these topics keeps them taboo and could make it harder for someone who has experienced sexual abuse or violence to speak out about their experiences.

While I do not support a huge portion of the sex industry that globally exploits and traffics women and abuses and violates performers, I am in support of sex workers and pornography and believe firmly in regulation and protection of the related professions. This goes back to the bodily integrity/ bodily autonomy thing because I think that  if someone has chosen sex work despite having alternatives and they are kept safe during their work then you don’t have the right to tell them that they shouldn’t be doing it.

In an interview in Elle magazine camgirl and filmmaker Ashley Vex spoke about making about safe, consensual porn with her studio Four Chambers go and check it out!

 

I appreciate comments, links and questions on this post but any hateful or discriminatory speech will not be approved.
Discussion and debate are welcomed provided it is structured, respectful and does not target individuals.

 

Have you ever been told “you’re not a feminist”?
What does your feminism look like?

 

Jenna
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